回复：世界第八大奇迹：波姬小丝

一起制定计划
当你只是与某人约会时，你会和好朋友或家人一起做计划，而很少是与约会的这个人一起；当你处于恋爱关系时，你经常会和恋爱对象一起做计划。
进入对方的社交圈子
每个人都有自己的社交圈子，当你只是与某人约会时，由于你不确定两个人有没有未来，所以你不一定让对方进入你的社交圈子；当你处于恋爱关系时，你把对方纳入到自己的社交圈子里来，让对方认识你的朋友家人。
承诺
承诺是恋爱关系中的关键，两个人在感情上更亲密，已通过语言和行动表白过爱；而约会关系中没有确定性和承诺。
期待
在约会关系中，由于没有确定性和承诺，对对方的要求和期待也会少；在恋爱关系中，你们可以要求对方在你需要的时候出现，倾听你的心声，说出你对对方的要求。
我还是我们
当你和某人约会时，你们两人看事情想问题时都把自己作为独立的个体；当你处于恋爱关系时，看事情想问题常常是用我们we。

dating分为四个阶段
第一阶段是最初的尴尬
两个人认识了，有激动，有火花，但也有那么点尴尬，这份尴尬来自于对这份感觉的不确定和对对方尚缺乏了解。如果你是想给对方留下好印象的那个，你面对对方时还会很紧张。
第二阶段是吸引阶段
被对方所吸引（尽管每个人被吸引的原因各不相同），尽量通过见面，短信，电话等各种方式与对方联系，走近对方，这种吸引让你跨过了最初的紧张尴尬。
第三阶段是对未来还不确定的阶段
两个人要各自掂量一下自己的感觉和感情，有没有和对方进一步发展的可能。如果有，则要花更多的时间在一起。
第四阶段是亲密伙伴
两个人朝着恋爱关系方向前进，开始觉得是不是有可能有个共同的未来。

这个例子可以看得更清楚

一九九一年MJ和麦当娜一同出席奥斯卡
多年以后麦当娜在社交媒体上贴出那一晚的合影，并配文 “Best Date Ever!!” 最好的约会。

这是MJ去世后一个月，麦当娜巡演时请了一位MJ模仿者Kento Mori 同台演出

In the Rolling Stone interview, Madonna described their relationship:
“There was a period of time when we hung out … He wanted to work with me, I think he wanted to get to know me, and I wanted to do the same,” she recalled. “So that’s what we were doing: watching movies, having dinner,hanging out, going to the Oscars, being silly, seeing if we could work.”
在《滚石》杂志的采访中，麦当娜描述了他们的关系：
“有一段时间我们一起出去……他想和我合作，我觉得他想了解我，我也一样（想了解他），”她回忆道。“所以我们就是这么做的：一起看电影、吃晚饭、闲逛、去奥斯卡颁奖典礼、犯傻，看能否合作。”
“I can’t say we were great friends,” Madonna said in a moving tribute speech at the 2009 VMAs after Jackson’s death. “But in 1991, I decided I wanted to try to get to know him better. I asked him out to dinner. It felt like he was looking for more of a friend than a romance, and I was happy to oblige.”
杰克逊去世后，麦当娜在2009年VMA上发表了感人的悼念演讲，她说：“我不能说我们是好朋友。”。“但在1991年，我决定尝试更多地了解他。我约他出去吃饭。感觉他更多的是在寻求友谊，而不是浪漫，我也很乐于效劳。”

波姬小丝和George Michael
波姬小丝在自传中说过，她的妈妈鼓励她和MJ，George Michael， John Travolta来往，她妈妈觉得这些人性格好没有威胁。
波姬小丝的妈妈不喜欢 迪恩·凯恩和阿加西，他们让波姬小丝逐步脱离了与她妈妈的共生关系，成为独立个体。
上大学是波姬小丝生命的转折点，她有一个自我觉醒的过程，在那之后她就长大成熟了。

再说一下国内迈迷圈内关于丽莎卖结婚证的传言
第一，查无实据。由于拍卖行没有透露买家和卖家的名字，所以无论是正规媒体还是小报，都没有丽莎卖结婚证的说法，只知道结婚证卖了七万美元，时间是2010年1月。
第二，丽莎和尼古拉斯·凯奇交往期间，凯奇送给丽莎一枚六克拉的黄钻订婚戒指，价值6万5千美元，后来他们乘游艇在海上游玩，起了争执，丽莎一气之下把戒指扔进了大海。后来凯奇又补送了十克拉的黄钻。所以如果她不想看那张结婚证了，撕掉就是，把结婚证卖掉惹怒迈迷么？
第三，2010年5月，丽莎发文说，她去了MJ的墓园，看到花很少有些冷清，MJ很喜欢向日葵，她自己送了丝绸的向日葵，请粉丝们给MJ送一些向日葵吧。如果她一月刚卖掉结婚证表示她对MJ的不屑，此时又何必号召粉丝送向日葵，而外粉又何必响应这么一个人的号召，在墓园摆满了向日葵呢？
后来丽莎明确地说她当时离开第一任丈夫丹尼·吉奥是一个错误，她意识到她和MJ并不适合结婚，也许当个朋友才对了。
在波姬小丝的新纪录片中，她也说她和阿加西就不应该结婚。

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Beaver County Times, June 6, 1993
Q.Newspaper pictures of Brooke Shields at a charity event showed her wearing a huge diamond ring， is it an engagement ring?
A One of my eagle-eyed spies saw that amazing ring at the recent posh sale held in Manhattan by The Lighthouse， an organization helping the blind (Brooke was honorary chairwoman of the event. The ring an immense 11-carat diamond is a gift from none other than her good friend Michael Jackson. He tossed a box of Cracker Jacks at Brooke while she was a guest at his ranch, offhandedly saying,”Here, I never give you any presents!” The magnificent ring was the prize inside.
海狸郡时报，1993 年 6 月 6 日
问：报纸上波姬·小丝参加慈善活动的照片显示她戴着一个大钻戒，这是订婚戒指吗？
答： 我的一位眼尖的线人最近在曼哈顿灯塔奢侈品销售会上看到了这枚令人惊叹的戒指。灯塔是一家帮助盲人的机构，小丝是这次活动的名誉主席。赠送给小丝这枚嵌着11克拉大钻戒的不是别人，正是小丝的好朋友迈克尔·杰克逊。小丝在他的庄园作客时，他扔给小丝一盒Cracker Jack（这是一种休闲食品，主要成份是爆米花和花生，盒内一般附赠一件不值钱的小奖品），很随意地说：“给，我没送过你什么礼物！”盒里的奖品就是那枚华丽的钻戒。

就是类似这样的盒子

Rockwell, 1984
Michael is having an affair with Brooke Shields and sees her a lot. Every time I talk to him about her ，he smiles and seems to be very, very happy. I keep saying to him ”Do I hear wedding bells, Michael?” and he breaks into a big grin. But he dates other women, including a former Miss Universe and Tatum O’Neal. He’s also very close to Diana Ross but he isn’t obsessed with her.
洛克韦尔（高迪的儿子），1984 年 迈克尔与波姬小丝关系暧昧，经常见她。每次我和他谈起她时，他都会微笑，似乎非常非常开心。我一直对他说：“迈克尔，我听到婚礼的钟声了吗？”他咧嘴笑。但他也与其他女子约会，包括一位前环球小姐和塔特姆·奥尼尔。他与戴安娜·罗斯也很亲近，但他并不痴迷于她。

这是洛克韦尔
Right On Magazine, March, 1984
Now,let’s talk about Brooke and her thing with Michael. She says they’re just friends and her mom is telling everybody the same thing. But their comments haven’t hushed up the gossips, who are still whispering that there’s some hot love affair going on.
Don’t believe it. All you have to do is see those two together and you know, there’s nothing going on. Like Brooke says, they’re just friends.
Its the most innocent-looking relationship you ever want to see. She’s more like a fancy decoration than a girlfriend.
Right On 杂志，1984 年 3 月
现在，让我们谈谈波姬小丝和她与迈克尔的事。她说他们只是朋友，她妈妈也对每个人这样说。但她们的解释并没有平息闲言碎语，传言有热恋正在进行中。
别相信这些闲话。只要看看这两个人在一起的样子，你就会知道，没有任何事情发生。
正如波姬小丝所说的，他们只是朋友。 这是最纯真的关系，她更像一件华丽的装饰而不是女朋友。

And why is Brooke doing this? She’s no dummy. Its great publicity for her. Hanging out with Michael has gotten her more publicity than she’s ever had. What’s funny is that she’s getting all this attention by playing second fiddle to Michael.
When they’re out together, he’s the star. He’s the one everyone wants to talk to and photograph. Publically, she says she doesn’t mind taking a back seat to Michael, but privately, she’s telling her pals that she minds very much. After all Brooke has a big ego.
为什么波姬小丝要这样做？她不笨，这对她来说是一次很好的宣传。和迈克尔一同出席活动让她获得了前所未有的知名度。有趣的是，她通过当副手来获得所有这些关注。
当他们一起外出时，他是明星。他是每个人想与之交谈和拍照的人。在公开场合，她说她不介意退居次席；但私下里，她告诉她的朋友她其实很介意。毕竟波姬小丝也有她的自负。

But all the publicity she’s gotten through Michael hasn’t helped her film career. Her new film Sahara, doesn’t look like a box-office smash.
The word around Hollywood is that this publicity is working against her. After all, she is white and Michael is black. They may be big stars but they’re still an interracial couple. A lot of people are turned off by interracial dating. Michael is such a superstar that very little could effect his popularity. But Brooke is in a different position. Its possible that people who don’t like interracial relationships are turning their back on Brooke.
但她通过迈克尔获得的这些宣传对她的电影生涯没有帮助。她的新电影《撒哈拉》看起来并不火。
好莱坞那边的说法是，这种宣传对她不利。毕竟她是白人，迈克尔是黑人。他们可能是大明星，但他们仍然是跨种族约会。很多人对跨种族约会感到厌烦。迈克尔是一位超级巨星，这几乎不会影响他受欢迎的程度。但波姬小丝不同，不喜欢跨种族关系的人可能会远离波姬小丝。

One thing for sure Brooke has made a lot of enemies among black females. She was with Michael at the New York party, at the Grammys and the American Music Awards. She was getting some nasty stares from black females at those three events. It was particularly bad at the New York party.Black ladies there were really giving her dirty looks. If dirty looks could kill, Brooke would be in the graveyard now.
有一点可以肯定，那就是波姬小丝在黑人女性中树了很多敌。她和迈克尔一起参加了纽约派对、格莱美奖和全美音乐奖。在这三次活动中，她受到了黑人女士们不友好的盯视。尤其是在纽约派对上，那里的黑人女士看她的眼神很敌意。如果敌意的眼神能杀人的话，波姬小丝现在就在墓地里了。

来自拉托亚自传（1991 年版）
Despite the press’s portrayal, Michael and Brooke’s relationship was a friendship, plain and simple – at least in Michael’s mind. It was obvious to Janet and me that she had other ideas. About to watch a movie with us at home, Brooke would declare, “I’m going to sit by Michael,” grabbing his hand. “Michael, where are we going to sit?”
Janet and I concurred that she was a bit forward, especially when she started making plans for them as a couple. Brooke longed to accompany Michael to the two upcoming American Music Awards and the Grammys, and pestered him about it every chance she got.
“Michael, I’m going to be your date, right?” For a supposed question, it sure had a ring of finality to it. “It’s going to be you and me.”
尽管媒体有这样那样的描述，迈克尔和波姬小丝的关系是一种友谊，简单明了——至少在迈克尔看来是这样。
在珍妮和我看来，很明显她有其它想法。我们在家要看电影的时候，波姬小丝会抓着他的手说：“我要坐在迈克尔身边。”“迈克尔，咱们坐哪儿？”
珍妮和我一致认为她有点前卫，尤其是当她开始为他们制定计划时。小丝很希望作为女伴陪迈克尔参加即将举行的全美音乐奖和格莱美颁奖典礼，并一有机会就软磨硬泡。 “迈克尔，我会当你的女伴，对吧？”“你和我。”